Love between husband and wife is eternal.
The love between husband and wife cannot be given to another. If it is, it will be destroyed.
Including God in our relationship will bring peace in the family, and ultimately peace in the world. This love then can expand to our neighborhood and together we build a culture of heart!
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Think Yourself Well!
In 1987 Rev. Moon had a meeting with health professionals before opening a hospital. He saw the real impact in curing disease is from the spiritual factor. In other words, the mind. If a man becomes sick and choose to lives in nature, like in the mountains, and has a strong will and spirituality, he can live well there and overcome his sickness.
If you go to church then your mind is so happy that you forget you have an illness, that can be one of the best cures. Spirituality makes your spirit strong which gives vitality elements to your body!
In her book Mind Over Medicine, Lissa Rankin said:
- Change your thoughts
- Change your behaviors
- Change your biochemistry.
Our mind can make us sick, and it can make us well. Our feelings and beliefs impact our every cell. See yourself happy, whole, and at ease.
Our thoughts hold more medicine than many of the astonishing medical breakthroughs of our time.
Hope heals.
Happiness is preventative medicine.
Whether or not we feel and express love affects our well-being.
Infants’ material needs can be met, like being well fed, having appropriate clothing, etc., but if they are left alone in their crib, ignored, and not loved, they can die very quickly. That’s why the school of love is the family.
My grandma Marie was dropped off at the orphanage in Lyon, I believe by her birth mother. Because I also believe her birth father could not, or decided not to, take responsibility for love.
My grandma found adoptive parents who loved her as their own daughter amidst many other children of their own. They restored hope and happiness in her, gave her a dowry when she married, and she became my beloved grandma.
The family is the school of love. The clan and tribe continue a loving community, and at church you find larger social networks.
Healthy relationships are medicine for the mind. Think yourself well!
Love Stimulates Love
“What’s wrong with the world…People livin’ like they ain’t got no mamas.”
This is from the song “Where Is the Love?” by the Black Eyed Peas.
On each trip to the library, I pick up a few books on marriage and relationships. This has always been for me the most interesting topic as life is all about relationships. if we can get the fundamental relationship of husband and wife going strong and the family is well, then all will be well.
In his book Family First, Dr. Phil shares that he has an obligation to protect and care for his family. He and his wife made a pledge to each other and their family, reporting to God in prayer.
The other book I picked was the The Good Marriage: How and Why Love Lasts, by Judith S. Wallerstein and Sandra Blakeslee. They said that one in two marriages ends in divorce, and one in three children can expect to experience their parents’ divorce. The bride and groom themselves may question why they should marry, since it’s likely to break up.
To continue from The Good Marriage, the authors convey that even happily married men and women can get depressed, lose jobs; they cry, yell, get frustrated; they come from sad, abusive neglectful backgrounds as well as from stable families. All marriages are haunted from things of the past.
Marriage counselors like to tell their clients that there are at least six people in every marital bed: the couple and both sets of parents.
My favorite book this month is by Gary Chapman, author of The 5 Love Languages. The title of his book is Love as a Way of Life.
Chapman said that his marriage radically changed after he asked his wife three questions every day:
1. What can I do to help you today?
2. How can I make your life easier?
3. How can I be a better husband to you?
He said when he asked these questions, his wife gave the answers with no reluctance. Her answers taught him how to express love to her in meaningful ways. Within a month, he saw a change in his wife’s attitude towards him. Within three months, she was willing to ask him those three questions in return. Their relationship took a positive turn. “Love always stimulates love.”
Chapman also mentioned that they gave each other complete access to computers, cell phones, and financial records. Being an open book to each other like this means not hiding anything, not cheating. It is better to share everything for protection, and be together in everything. He emphasized that no other man could treat his wife as well as he does. He believes he needed divine help in order to make love as a way of life.
I was very thrilled this month when my editor announced she transcribed sixteen tapes of Dietrich’s classes on Marriage and Family. Without God things become quickly impossible and hopeless! Dietrich was a theologian first and foremost. And second, he has the same dream as God, our Heavenly Parent, to make an eternal relationship with one’s spouse and God together. I have to say as his wife he did an excellent job!
Stay Connected to Your Spouse at All Times: If one of us is hurt, we are all hurt
I read this quote on the internet:
“When a woman loves a man, and that man gives other women attention behind her back, she is not ‘jealous’ or ‘insecure’ but she is feeling hurt and betrayed by the man that says he loves her.”
For me this means protecting our boundaries, protecting the respect we have for each other, protecting our relationship from outsiders, solving our problems within our marriage, making our partner feel valued and secure by working to create unity with each other. It means giving attention to another woman (flirting) is cheating. An emotional affair is part of infidelity.
One of our life episodes was when Dietrich was finishing his doctorate in theology and we had two young children. Another lady was also finishing her doctoral studies.
One day my husband announced that he was going to study with her in her apartment for a few hours. I thought, “Oh, he needs to study and she too, and they are helping each other. And she is engaged to be married!”
But I did not like the fact that there would be alone in her apartment. After a few hours “she” drove him back to the park where I was waiting with the kids. I did not like the way she was looking at my husband. It did not feel quite right. It felt like an intrusion. That another “she” was having all the attention.
I did not feel “jealous” or insecure.” I felt deeply hurt.
It is said in the Bible that Jesus had to overcome three temptations. At that time my spouse was not realizing that it was a trap from Satan, and he was being tempted. “She” did not have pure motives.
We solved this situation pretty quickly, because we knew stuff! Alarm bells rang in our ears.
It is uncomfortable if a married man says to a woman that she is pretty. Never develop an emotional connection or digital connection with another woman. Emotion leads to physical action.
There are many ways to create inseparable bonds. You can have meaningful rituals that no interference can destroy.
My husband and I always prayed together. It means we built a wall of protection! We had daily meaningful conversations (we built intimacy). We solved our conflicts by researching problem solving.
We had lots of credit in our emotional bank account and if I ever said something unkind to him, he would look for ways to repay me with kind words and unconditional Godly love.
We had a spiritual life. We had a purpose. We had a highly ideal mission. Our mission was to be one, together is better. To be the other half of each other.
We resemble our Creator, our Heavenly Parent. When we reach that point, we become inseparable, from each other and from God. And there will be no more fallen humankind! Oh what a wonderful world!
If Love Can Sing
If love can sing then love must be eternal!
At the beginning of our relationship, my husband Dietrich and I sent letters to each other via post as there were no cell phones or texting then.
Receiving those most precious letters signed “your eternal husband” was “music to my ears.” I also signed my letters “your eternal wife.”
Later when arriving home after a long day at work, taking me in his arms he would exclaim, “My eternal wife” as I was waiting by the door!
Love is eternal because God’s attributes are unchanging, eternal, and absolute. Then true love is also absolute, eternal, and unchanging. That’s why before Dietrich passed, he said to me “Forever together.”
The same goes for my family. Families are forever.
Randolph Remmel recently published this book
which tells the beginning of the story of the New Hope Singers International.
To learn more,
visit this website.
Calling Our Beloved’s Name
There is meaning in a person’s name.
I remember when Dietrich called my name his voice had a special vibe, touching the deepest part of my heart. My name was becoming so beautiful!
After Dietrich had ascended, one day, when I called his name he replied:
“When you call my name, I can be there, no problem. I like when you call my name because this is a way that I feel loved.”
My good friend Dr. Laurent Ladouce wrote that when he heard his wife pronounce his name for the first time he felt reborn. That is so special!
You can read Laurent’s article about love here. He refers to my book, “Letters Beyond the Veil”! His comment about his wife calling his name is in his response to a reader of the blog.
Healing our Spiritual Cancer
When we were a young family, my husband Dietrich was working on his Ph.D. in theology and philosophy. One of our discussion topics was how to distinguish good and evil! He said that, for his children, it is so important for them (as for all of us) to understand the difference.
In fact, what makes us miserable and unhappy is the misuse of love. If we look around we see it everywhere.
In the Bible we read that God created us in His image, man and woman He created us. We also read that there was temptation, that Eve the first woman was tempted by the serpent Lucifer, then tempted Adam, and the Fall happened! And as a theologian this was not a bedtime story, but a real drama which happened a long, long time ago, but with so many consequences that we see today!
There is a malaise d’amour! Mal d’amour makes a person not want to live anymore, because he or she cannot be loved or love as God intended! God gave us freedom but with freedom comes responsibility. The quest of all philosophies and all theologies is to find happiness.
I quickly learned when I was a young bride that I had to overcome things. I had to grow in wisdom and understanding and not succumb to temptations or tricks from the devil, and not develop a spiritual cancer.
We are living in the “End Times” and Jesus is coming back, or has come back. As Elon Musk is saying, the rapture is coming or is here. Humanity is at a crossroads between good and evil. Let’s choose carefully the Son of Man descending from above, the Only Begotten Son marrying the Only Begotten Daughter, and establishing firmly the Kingdom of God on Earth as it is in Heaven.
In doing so, all spiritual cancers, as well as conflicts and wars and tears, will be eradicated. and humankind, by taking responsibility, will establish the world that everyone is looking for!
Your friend, Elisabeth Seidel
The French Politeness Plan
I came back to my hometown after more than 50 years in America, land that I love! Of course I made many visits over the years to my parents and family. My Grandma Elisabeth had 12 brothers and sisters, and somehow we kids and grandkids were close to each other. So we had family reunions and gatherings of all sorts. We also had disapproval and hardships!
Now people called me the American, because I guess I had become one. I feel closer to the American culture than the French one! So, quickly upon my arrival people confronted me with harsh treatment, giving me lessons on politeness.
I went to the cinema to see the famous new film “Comte de Monte Christo.” Some scenes were hard to watch, so I took out my phone to look at my email (just for 10 seconds). After 3 seconds the lady in the next row hit my back with her fist to let me know that was not permitted! Yes, I should have known! I decided to keep quiet and let it go, but I thought she was rude.
Then I took a small bus around town and before I had a chance to count my change I was being screamed at by the driver, “What was I thinking? What about the other people who had an appointment? Are they going to be late because of me?” I resolved to make an effort to be more mindful of others and be prepared next time! Then the coffee shop guy let me have it! He said he is the one deciding the rules not me and I should have my change ready! Why I am encountering so many mean people? What is the reason behind all this?
The last example is when I was trying a new coffee shop in town, determined to find a happy encounter! So here I am taking my coffee again and it was break time for the owner. I was sitting outside so he went ahead and locked all the doors leaving me no way to use the bathroom, which was not funny.
Opposite was another coffee shop, and I thought I have the right to use their bathroom. They are probably friends and will help me use their bathroom. Was I wrong! There the owner was in one corner absorbed in his computer and I was not sure who he was? Perhaps a customer. Do I proceed to the bathroom? Then I was welcomed with a politeness plan applied to all ages! How could I do such a thing? Now I was in real trouble! No excuse could validate my action! How could I be so disgraceful! Now everyone in my hometown seems very upset about my behavior!
What did I learn? France is a country ready to shoot fire at anything and everything. Everyone is on edge and ready to pick a fight! Everyone feels miserable and unloved. I want to be the one to bring new hope here and soothe their pain and misery, because in fact I am the lucky one who received so much love from my Heavenly Parent and from my ideal beloved eternal husband.
It is true we can grow and be better at any age. We can be more polite. We can return meanness with gracefulness and free smiles that come from the heart. Kindness is free and make us feel good and happy.
But the other day I was grumpy, so I am thinking to repair the misunderstanding and prepare a plan of action…to obtain forgiveness. Perhaps I will buy each of them a croissant aux amandes (delicious!) or some popcorn from the USA.
Once we are loved, this makes our heart happy and patient and loving. So we need to recover the strength to become such people again.
Finally, I had one happy encounter, with Christophe in an outdoor coffee shop in Corbier. Christophe is a healer and medium and believe forces of goodness will prevail as well as a brand new world starting in 2025-2026!
With love from your friend,
Elisabeth Seidel
Precious Counsel
When we were young and awesome Dietrich and I gave counsels or tips to each other in order to have a better and happy life. I still find some pieces of paper with helpful words!
Here are some of the words of advice from Dietrich, which I always took to heart:
One: Do the little things that mean a lot
(One day out of the blue I shine his shoes)
Two: Talk with a pleasant voice
(Am I frustrated, irritated, upset? impatient? Which kind of energy am I communicating? Is it better if I can learn to control my emotions and my energy and reflect love, forgiveness, and understanding?)
Three: Know how to listen
(Am I here when he needs to talk?
Four: Believe in your husband’s potential
(All men need to be encouraged and valued and trusted)
I will add that money did not buy me love, but service to others brought me happiness.
Also, I love this quote from sister Lucia of Fatima: “The final confrontation between the Lord and Satan will be over family and marriage,” and my husband’s quote “the best therapy in the world is someone who cares about you!”
Have a blessed day!
Your friend, Elisabeth Seidel
Thayer Lane, Where the Moon Is My Street Light
When we moved to our new home there were no street lights on Thayer Lane. There never will be.
The nature, the evergreens, the night sky, the shiny bright stars, the North Star, the constellations, and the universe are there for all of us. Besides, among the celestial planets, when there is a full moon, it is as bright as it can be.
If you could see with spiritual eyes, you would see the warm fire of our hearts reaching out to each other and to God, love being the fastest of all, reaching across the oceans and mountains to illuminate, encourage, and heal those who have been wounded by angry words, irresponsible acts, means actions, bad choices, immoral behavior, and all the ugly things. If you could see with your spiritual eyes, you would see that there is a safe place with a loving couple standing before God, making petitions for others, and bringing them together as an extended family, to reach a new level of understanding and happiness, fulfillment, and accomplishments.
Joy is to be found and elevated to a new world where God lives. The knowledge of God is the greatest knowledge of all. God’s creation, all of nature, teaches us so much about how to live harmoniously with God and with each other.
Your friend, Elisabeth Seidel
Dietrich F. Seidel 