Love between husband and wife is eternal.
The love between husband and wife cannot be given to another. If it is, it will be destroyed.
Including God in our relationship will bring peace in the family, and ultimately peace in the world. This love then can expand to our neighborhood and together we build a culture of heart!
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My 80th Birthday
My friends organized a wonderful celebration for my 80th birthday this month. I was so inspired by this speech my daughter Diesa gave, so I wanted to share it with you all.
Ladies and gentlemen, if I could have your attention for just a moment—I want to say a few words about someone very special tonight: my mom, or as I like to lovingly call her, The Queen Mother.
Now, some people earn a royal aura through titles or castles. My mom? She did it the old-fashioned way: with impeccable taste, high standards, and the ability to make everyone around her feel like they’re in the presence of greatness.
And let’s be honest—everything she does is authentic. If she laughs at a movie, it’s probably worthy of an Academy Award. If she says the dinner is delicious, that restaurant should probably be world-renowned. If she says it’s a beautiful day outside, well… you probably should have called in sick and gone outside immediately.
And it’s not just taste—my mom is extremely lucky. I mean, if she wants something, somehow, magically, it appears. Whether it’s getting the corner table by the window at a crowded restaurant, finding the perfect shirt on the sale rack in her size, or marrying the most incredible man on the planet, my Dad… My mom doesn’t just live life; she manifests it.
And of course, being a true Queen isn’t just about style, charm, and impeccable taste—it’s also about heart. Her empathy is genuine; not just for those close to her, but for all people throughout all countries.
It’s the kind of awareness and compassion you would expect from a queen: someone who understands that her influence can—and should—be used to make the world a little brighter, a little kinder, and a little more just.
Her combination of grace, courage, and empathy is exactly what makes her the Queen of our hearts.
So tonight, in celebration of her 80th birthday, let’s raise our glasses to my mom—the woman with impeccable taste, unstoppable luck, and a laugh that lights up the room. Long live the Queen Mother! May your reign continue for many more years filled with love, laughter, and all the finest things life has to offer.
Happy birthday, Mom!
Think Yourself Well!
In 1987 Rev. Moon had a meeting with health professionals before opening a hospital. He saw the real impact in curing disease is from the spiritual factor. In other words, the mind. If a man becomes sick and choose to lives in nature, like in the mountains, and has a strong will and spirituality, he can live well there and overcome his sickness.
If you go to church then your mind is so happy that you forget you have an illness, that can be one of the best cures. Spirituality makes your spirit strong which gives vitality elements to your body!
In her book Mind Over Medicine, Lissa Rankin said:
- Change your thoughts
- Change your behaviors
- Change your biochemistry.
Our mind can make us sick, and it can make us well. Our feelings and beliefs impact our every cell. See yourself happy, whole, and at ease.
Our thoughts hold more medicine than many of the astonishing medical breakthroughs of our time.
Hope heals.
Happiness is preventative medicine.
Whether or not we feel and express love affects our well-being.
Infants’ material needs can be met, like being well fed, having appropriate clothing, etc., but if they are left alone in their crib, ignored, and not loved, they can die very quickly. That’s why the school of love is the family.
My grandma Marie was dropped off at the orphanage in Lyon, I believe by her birth mother. Because I also believe her birth father could not, or decided not to, take responsibility for love.
My grandma found adoptive parents who loved her as their own daughter amidst many other children of their own. They restored hope and happiness in her, gave her a dowry when she married, and she became my beloved grandma.
The family is the school of love. The clan and tribe continue a loving community, and at church you find larger social networks.
Healthy relationships are medicine for the mind. Think yourself well!
Love Stimulates Love
“What’s wrong with the world…People livin’ like they ain’t got no mamas.”
This is from the song “Where Is the Love?” by the Black Eyed Peas.
On each trip to the library, I pick up a few books on marriage and relationships. This has always been for me the most interesting topic as life is all about relationships. if we can get the fundamental relationship of husband and wife going strong and the family is well, then all will be well.
In his book Family First, Dr. Phil shares that he has an obligation to protect and care for his family. He and his wife made a pledge to each other and their family, reporting to God in prayer.
The other book I picked was the The Good Marriage: How and Why Love Lasts, by Judith S. Wallerstein and Sandra Blakeslee. They said that one in two marriages ends in divorce, and one in three children can expect to experience their parents’ divorce. The bride and groom themselves may question why they should marry, since it’s likely to break up.
To continue from The Good Marriage, the authors convey that even happily married men and women can get depressed, lose jobs; they cry, yell, get frustrated; they come from sad, abusive neglectful backgrounds as well as from stable families. All marriages are haunted from things of the past.
Marriage counselors like to tell their clients that there are at least six people in every marital bed: the couple and both sets of parents.
My favorite book this month is by Gary Chapman, author of The 5 Love Languages. The title of his book is Love as a Way of Life.
Chapman said that his marriage radically changed after he asked his wife three questions every day:
1. What can I do to help you today?
2. How can I make your life easier?
3. How can I be a better husband to you?
He said when he asked these questions, his wife gave the answers with no reluctance. Her answers taught him how to express love to her in meaningful ways. Within a month, he saw a change in his wife’s attitude towards him. Within three months, she was willing to ask him those three questions in return. Their relationship took a positive turn. “Love always stimulates love.”
Chapman also mentioned that they gave each other complete access to computers, cell phones, and financial records. Being an open book to each other like this means not hiding anything, not cheating. It is better to share everything for protection, and be together in everything. He emphasized that no other man could treat his wife as well as he does. He believes he needed divine help in order to make love as a way of life.
I was very thrilled this month when my editor announced she transcribed sixteen tapes of Dietrich’s classes on Marriage and Family. Without God things become quickly impossible and hopeless! Dietrich was a theologian first and foremost. And second, he has the same dream as God, our Heavenly Parent, to make an eternal relationship with one’s spouse and God together. I have to say as his wife he did an excellent job!
Moms Also Have Wishes
I wish to reconcile with my only brother!
I wish my children would understand what is important for their Dad and their Mom.
I wish every day I could make all the wrongs into rights, the hatred into love, and all the resentments be forgiven.
I wish I could go one more time to see the village of my grandma’s home in the Alps where her childhood home is still there among the ruins, the church in her village where one year I could share holy wine, the place where she tended the sheep and the cows. She had to work hard to pay for her room and board. She came from an orphanage in Lyon, and then she was adopted and received much love.
I wish I could visit my son and be there for him in Brazil and my son could be there for me.
I wish my daughter had time to take me across America, the land that I love.
I wish to put my life in order and prepare for my next mission, serving and blessing people in my next life above!
I wish for the time where people are an extended family caring for each other in true love, where no one is lonely, and each one invited to the table to be loved and served.
It is the time where we put every wrong into right, the time where Holy Mother Han has been opening wide the gates of Heaven.
Today Let’s Just Be Happy and Other Complicated Things
“Mousey, today let us just be happy!” my husband would say from time to time. “Mousey” was our nickname. “Forget everything, take my hand, let’s run to the woods. Look up the sky that is true blue! Look down, the earth is fresh from the rain with multi colored flowers.”
Sometimes Dietrich would come up with a sentence that had deep meaning for the day and more. He was studying complicated things in theology and could condense the whole thing into one sentence, “Let us just be happy” (the purpose of life is joy).
When he was writing his Ph.D. dissertation, he chose the topic “Marriage and family in the Christian tradition.” The German theologian and philosopher, Friedrich Schleiermacher, was his interest. He was one of the first to break through about revolutionary ideas for marriage and family after the Protestant Reformation.
So, Dietrich wrote his dissertation on this subject. Then, years later, one day during a big clean up a copy of his dissertation went to the dumpster. Our daughter Diesa, who was then a college student, said she wanted it. Dietrich went back to the dumpster and retrieved this precious book, which then went back on a shelf.
A few years later I gave it to our editor, Dr. Tanabe. During the summer of 2024 she edited it and later surprised us by publishing it as a book to honor both Friedrich Schleiermacher and Dietrich Seidel.
The Christian foundation has been the bedrock for a happy marriage! Let us all be happy today!
When Our Beloved Spouse Ascends
Birth, marriage, and death are the three main events in one’s life. We all wish to know, is there life after life? When I was a teenager, this was one of my fundamental questions.
The process of dying for my husband Dietrich lasted about a year. When he was in and out of the hospital for chemotherapy and infection, one day out of the blue I asked him bluntly, “Are you scared of dying?” He answered in a very calm voice, “No, it is very natural.”
How could I imagine that death was also something natural for him? I could not even entertain the thought, “What am I going to do without him?” I could not imagine him going away now, not so soon. But somehow his answer satisfied me. Passing into the next world should be something very natural.
He knew there are three stages of life: The first 9 months in the womb is a world of water. In the earthly life we are breathing air. The last stage is in the spirit world. Like the baby who goes through the tunnel of the uterus to be born, we also go through a tunnel to arrive in the next world. There we breathe love.
The hospital discharged Dietrich because there was nothing more they could do, and the hospice care began. Before he passed, I told him:
“Do not worry. I will take care of everything. Things I do not know about. Things I never did before. Things I do not want to do. Things I am afraid of. Things beyond myself. How to figure things out without you around. Things left unfinished. But do not worry I will take care of everything. All the wrongs, I will make right. All the pains, I will heal. All the miseries, I will make them joys. Because you left me with a reservoir of true love.”
The day he passed we began a different relationship together. I continued to have a relationship with Dietrich. I could not see him but we communicated with thoughts and feelings. I sensed his presence at times.
Because my husband and I were so close during our lifetime, we used to share everything; we talked a lot; we were the other half of each other. So of course, I have continued to share many things with him since his passing several years ago.
One night I had a short dream of Dietrich. Someone said, “Dietrich is on the phone.” So I rushed to the phone, thinking he was still in the hospital. When I picked up the phone, I just heard the sound of his voice far, far away. The communication had a bad reception and I could not understand what he was saying. When I woke up, I thought the connection will be better next time.
I talk to him while looking at his picture. I write letters to him. Sometimes he answers me like a deep intuition, an emotion, a subtle presence, a certainty, a love sentence coming at me out of somewhere. Then joy comes into my heart as a river of peace, a sense of protection and affirmation of the eternal. Is it not the cherished hope of humanity that we live forever? That there is life after life? I began writing my thoughts down, in the form of letters to my beloved. And I was able to receive his answers! One time I received:
“I am thrilled that you are writing to me. It is even better than the telephone because it is written, and I can read it again and again, the writings of my most beautiful wife!”
We were able to communicate because True Love travels everywhere. I am not a medium but I have deep intuition and feelings. Through thoughts, inspiration, and knowing, somehow, we did manage to understand each other and send letters back and forth, because of the love we experienced here on earth!
My children also had some experiences where their father visited them, touched their lives in a way that was meaningful to them. For that I am so grateful.
Last year, 2023, we celebrated seven years since Dietrich’s passing. A whole circle has been accomplished.
For me, even if he lives in a different dimension, we work and live together, we talk together, we cry together, we celebrate together, because true love never stops. It transcends barriers; the vibrations and energies go back and forth between the two worlds.
It has been a learning experience for me to live alone but together with Dietrich. I feel his presence every day and he is sending messages. Love travels everywhere. So, for these seven years my mission has been to put his life’s work together and to open more widely the gates of the Kingdom of Heaven.
My new book Letters Beyond the Veil describes my journey after my beloved Dietrich ascended to the eternal realm, including many of the letters we wrote to each other during the years since he passed.
For anyone whose beloved spouse, or someone very close in heart, has already ascended from this earthly realm, I hope this book will offer comfort, hope, and inspiration. One widow who read it said:
“I know many lives will be touched and comforted by this book as she shares practical ways God has given her to navigate through the grief process, as she remembers the special relationship she had and still has with her beloved. … She has encouraged me.”
For couples who will inevitably face the reality that one will ascend and the other will remain on earth, I can testify that although the pain is real, the connection, the love is not lost. We remain connected through the “veil” until we are reunited in the eternal realm.
Precious Counsel
When we were young and awesome Dietrich and I gave counsels or tips to each other in order to have a better and happy life. I still find some pieces of paper with helpful words!
Here are some of the words of advice from Dietrich, which I always took to heart:
One: Do the little things that mean a lot
(One day out of the blue I shine his shoes)
Two: Talk with a pleasant voice
(Am I frustrated, irritated, upset? impatient? Which kind of energy am I communicating? Is it better if I can learn to control my emotions and my energy and reflect love, forgiveness, and understanding?)
Three: Know how to listen
(Am I here when he needs to talk?
Four: Believe in your husband’s potential
(All men need to be encouraged and valued and trusted)
I will add that money did not buy me love, but service to others brought me happiness.
Also, I love this quote from sister Lucia of Fatima: “The final confrontation between the Lord and Satan will be over family and marriage,” and my husband’s quote “the best therapy in the world is someone who cares about you!”
Have a blessed day!
Your friend, Elisabeth Seidel
“Thank you for the hug”
I wrote this letter to my beloved husband Dietrich a few months after he ascended into the eternal spiritual realm. It turned out to be the first of many letters I wrote to him, to communicate with him “beyond the veil.”
Today our son Chris called from India, where he is taking a trip, and he said: ”Please, Mom communicate with Dad today, as it is November 1st All Saints’ Day. The Celtic tradition says this is the best time to hear your loved ones, your ancestors from the spiritual world, as the veil is the thinnest at this time. Happy Day of All Saints, Happy communication!”
So I wanted to share this letter with you on this special day.
April 13, 2017
Dearest Dietrich,
Most beloved, I love you! Thank you from the bottom of my heart for the 40 years we spent together here on earth. It was most amazing. Happy times like Heaven on earth; difficult times like the pit of hell; amazing times like the world is mine; tearful times till there were no more tears. In health and sickness, I always loved you. I know you did too.
I have to say, we were always connected by a most special energy, like a rubber band. If we went too far apart this rubber band would not stretch more but made us return to the starting point. You could swallow my sharp edges, and I made your sweetness more salty. We had some good fights; you always forgave me. It took me more time to digest the difficult memories, but ultimately I did too.
So what is left is the true love we feel for each other, because we did always include our Heavenly Father in whatever we did. I think this is the conclusion of our beautiful life together on earth with our God whom we both love. Without this ideal our life has truly no meaning. I am so grateful that your last words to me on earth were: “I will be always with you, forever together.” This sentence gives me strength and new life as we are now in two different worlds, apart but together.
So, every morning when I get up after reading some spiritual texts, I pick up my phone and go outside in the beautiful creation as we did all our life. I say:
“Hi, this is Elisabeth, your beloved wife. I love you so very much. I hope you are well. I am calling from the earth all the way to the spirit world where you now live.
I hope you are happy! I miss you, I am sure you miss me too.
I do not hear you back, because the connection is not so clear yet, but one day I will. But I know you are there and we are praying together.
Thank you Dietrich for your love. Truly, true love will prevail.”
By the way, thank you for the hug I got yesterday in my dream. It was truly from you. I did not want to let go of that hug, but then I woke up and said to you, “Thank you for the hug.”
God bless you, Elisabeth
Breakfast in Bed
This morning I woke up with a luxurious idea: Did I ever have breakfast in bed?
I do not remember.
In France it is supposed to be one of the ultimate luxuries. I am not talking about when you have to eat in bed; if you are sick and at the hospital and can’t get up.
Perhaps once when my cup was too full, someone in my family brought me a croissant and coffee? I do not remember.
When I go to the next world, I will ask my grandma to make breakfast in bed for me. She was always so good to me. I miss her a lot. After we walked all the way to Montarlot by St Étienne de Cuines, the first village in the mountains, when we arrived back home she would bake these châtaignes (chestnuts) for me in the oven, or cook them with milk. I remember the taste of them. If I ask her, she will make breakfast in bed for me.
Of course, my true love has to be there too in order for it to be the ultimate luxury.
It cannot be at 6.00 am. It has to be later, when the sun comes out and you see it appearing behind your curtains. You hear the chirping of the birds in the backyard and nobody is hurried, because you are busy taking in the sounds of nature, and all the love you are already receiving from everyone.
Food is love. My Heavenly Father made luxurious food for me. I am so happy I can enjoy all the food He made for me, the cherries and the fuji apples. Who else would you think made such a delicacy?
Luxury comes also when we mix products from the farm, baking and cooking them, like apple pie, or steak and fries.
Woah! I will have breakfast in bed someday with my beloved. I will ask my grandma to cook it for us.
Is it not a wonderful world?
Elisabeth Seidel
Dietrich F. Seidel 