Together is Better

Upon getting up one day, I was mad, mad at my husband. Super mad. I did not like the habit of his to be late, very late or a little late, but late anyhow.

I preferred Princess Diana’s way. She could be late because of who she was, but she was always on time or earlier. Early is on time, on time is late, and late is unacceptable. This is a way to show love and gives the message, “I care about you.”

When my daughter Diesa was at Marist college in Poughkeepsie, part of the Red Foxes basketball team, they had a rigorous training schedule. They had to be on the court or the gym at 5 am, which meant be there 15 minutes earlier for warm up. If they were late, they had to do push-ups. This has stayed with her for her whole life. She is always early for appointments.

Of course, Dietrich’s mom (Oma) knew of her son’s habit of being late, because whenever we were invited to her favorite restaurant, or any other place, it was hard to make it on time. One day Oma noticed I was frustrated and gave me some advice: “In these circumstances take your purse and go. Do not wait for him.” Nice advice when your mother-in-law takes your side!

We were living in the woods one hour from Vienna. That morning, Dietrich was preparing to go to Vienna to teach at the Vienna International University, and I was supposed to go to the city with him. As usual things got scrambled and hurried, and I knew my husband was going to speed all the way to the capital, leaving me in a state of anxiety.

So that morning I took my purse and went. I not only took my purse, but I took the car as well, so he was left without transportation. He had to walk to the train station, change trains and get the subway. He would not be on time for his class for sure, and because of that, he was very mad as well.

Meanwhile I was climbing in the Vienna woods with the car, almost surprised by my actions. But I did not feel comfortable with the negative emotions stirring in my heart.

I was climbing up to the famous Hohe Wand, fuming all the way there. It is about 1000 meters high with a breathtaking view well loved by the Viennese for weekends or holidays.

I started walking away through the evergreens, trying to pray for the day, but was not doing so well. Then I found a hut, as you always do when you go through the paths in the Vienna woods. I decided to have some breakfast there. It was still in the early hours of the morning, so no guests were there yet.

I started feeling awkward as the owner was staring at me not understanding my German. He was wondering, “Why is she here by herself at this early hour, alone when everybody still in bed, and she can’t even speak the language.”

The breakfast that day was not tasting so good. In fact, it was tasting almost bad. There was no flavor, no warmth to it. It tasted cold and unappealing. I was starting to feel all alone, from lonely to miserable. Was it worth all the drama? Could there be another way? I was feeling I was right and my husband was wrong. But is it not that we can let the right go, for the sake of peace?

I was not too proud of myself. I had to make a plan to become smarter than him, because deep inside I never wanted to fight. I like harmony and peace. So that day I made up my mind that I would say the time of all my appointments will be half an hour earlier. I will change the time with Dietrich and then relax and still be on time for my schedule.

Let’s not react with toxic emotions. I never liked to fight with my husband. Neither did he. The hardships and difficulties made us grow. To attain a better character and lifestyle we should learn to harmonize with each other and always make peace. Together is better.

Elisabeth Seidel

Backward Thinking

In our precious family, the mom (me) was labeled “backward thinking” by the daughter of the family, and the dad (my true love) was labeled “ok thinking,” because of who he is, she said.
Backward thinking means I do not fully comprehend or acknowledge the hurt of others in the past or present she said.

I myself am from the older generation who happened to make amends and reparations for the unity and reconciliation and restored love between the European countries who were at war with each other. Dietrich, my husband, came from German Austrian parents, with ancestors from Hungary. I have French, Italians, and ancestors from the House of Savoy which was once a sovereignty in Savoy between Switzerland and Italy in the French Alps. Often, my husband talked about the Alps, as you find them in many countries. The mountains united us.

Because of the World Wars, reparations between the French, Germans and Austrians started right there the day of our holy wedding. That was day one of the 40 years of reparations, amends and true love, the time we were married together on this earth. Through loving me, my husband brought comfort and reparations to my ancestors.

I was representing all of them. through loving me unconditionally, he could reverse the pain, suffering, and abuse of the World Wars. Even some days I was not lovable, he loved me anyway. True love has no borders. By giving true love the wars were forgiven.

Myself too, I had to learn to forgive, even when it was Impossible. I did forgive. Our marriage blessing was for the sake of our nations.

So, I would say that the quickest way to offer reparations is to be more loving, more forgiving, more embracing, and as Jesus said, “Love your enemy.”

When we walked into this room to receive the holy wine ceremony at the Belvedere estate and three days later at the New Yorker Hotel to receive the holy water marriage blessing ceremony from the late Rev. Moon, who is well known for marrying former enemies to each other, we did not fully realize how much hard work it would be to love one’s enemy. It took 40 years.

My daughter, Diesa, who first said in one of our conversations that whatever I was saying was backward thinking, after hearing me talking about our love story she agreed that this was forward thinking, because of our determination and desperation to love each other despite our differences and our parents and grandparents and ancestors being former enemies.

I am eternally grateful to my late husband that we could do this to advance peace and love for all humankind.
Elisabeth Seidel

Stranger Things

When my adult children came home for Christmas, one night my son suggested we watch an episode of “Stranger Things.” My daughter added that it is very popular among young people, and has a lot of followers. The title intrigued me, even though I did not like all the darkness and spookiness in the scenes. It dealt with the underworld, and how the gates from hell have been opened and all evil gets loose.
 
The series is about a town which opens up portals to the “other world” or a shadow to our world (referred to the “upside down world”).  The entities from that other world are seen as darker or evil spirits who attempt to take over our world through the opening in the portal.  But through the efforts of the main characters (mostly kids, especially the main girl character 11 or “El” who has psychic powers), they are able to close the portal to that world. In the end the darker entities are sent back to their world and have no more power, and cannot take over this world. My children concluded that there was some truth to this TV show.
 
When the world of peace comes, and the evil prince of this world has been captured, God will send his angels and helpers to work with the returned Christ. First the gates of hell will be opened, as the last frontline or battle with good and evil, which is shown very well in “Stranger Things.”

One of Jesus’ ministries was to liberate people from evil spirits and cast out demons. He himself had an encounter with Satan when he was fasting 40 days in the desert. He said “Away with you, Satan!” and “You shall not tempt the Lord your God.”
 
At the time of the Second Coming, with the power of Christ, we will be able to remove evil spirits and evil forces, in order for goodness, a new world of reconciliation, peace and love to appear. The new Christ will open gates, remove barriers, and show the way to establish the kingdom on earth as it is in heaven.
 
When Father Moon was in Danbury prison, and Mother Moon in their home in East Garden in Tarrytown, on the first day of February 1985 at 3 o’clock in the morning Father and Mother Moon conducted a ceremony. It was a declaration that the gates of Hell in the spirit world be torn down, and all the barriers blocking the way to earth be removed. Therefore, they opened the way for the stream of heart to flow forth.

Furthermore, we have entered an era where our ancestors, our grandfathers and grandmothers, in the spirit world can come down to us and coach us in everything.
 
It takes time for proclamations or prayers to be answered. What has been prayed for or proclaimed with a sincere heart will surely come to pass. Strange things really!
 
Elisabeth Seidel

Love is the Most Powerful Force of All

There is no greater force against evil in the world than the love of a man and a woman in marriage.

Cardinal Raymond Burke

As I was browsing Facebook, I stopped at this sentence from Cardinal Burke. I savored it for a long time. It was illustrated with a most stunning painting of a man and a woman dancing tenderly together as their kids, 5 and 7 years old it seemed, sat and watched. What a beautiful sight! Love is the most powerful force of all.

On Tuesday August 13, 1963, I wrote in my journal: “It is wonderful to think that soon I will be 18, all of a life to fill, so many things to get to know, and not knowing yet who will be the man of my life.”

Fast forward to February 1977. Just a few days before our wedding day, February 21, I was in the library at Belvedere estate together with many single men and women, who had come there to hear a speech from Rev. Sun Myung Moon.

I had heard rumors that Father Moon, as we call him, was preparing to conduct a Holy Marriage Blessing soon. Instead of a speech, Father Moon asked if we wanted him to start matching us right away! I was taken by surprise, a little in shock, and suddenly overcome by anticipation.

Father Moon started on the spot. He would ask a participant to stand up, ask a few questions and then point at a woman in the crowd. The two would then proceed to another room to talk and decide if they would accept the match. They would then return to the library and bow to Father and Mother Moon if they accepted. That afternoon 12 couples were matched. The next day the matching would continue.

When we were matched, Dietrich and I talked shortly. He said, “I like you.” I said, “I like you too.” As he was holding my hands, I was looking into his romantic green eyes and transported into the heavenly realm where God was telling me “I will love you through him.”

A few days later, on the 21st of February 1977, the Holy Marriage Blessing ceremony was held with 74 couples.

So, I totally agree with Cardinal Burke: There is no greater force against evil in the world than the love of a man and woman in marriage. 

Elisabeth Seidel

Proclamations, Declarations, Pledges, Vows and Promises

When a president takes office, he put his hand on the Bible and pledges, “…. so help me God.” He is taking a stand. He is promising what he is going to do. He is involving our almighty. He is making a declaration, a commitment.
 
The Pilgrims took a stand to put God first. This guided their life. They affirmed it; they declared it; they pledged it. This was the resolution which brought good fortune to them and America. They kept their word; they were trustworthy.
 
The Declaration of Independence was such a pledge before God.
 
When our first president George Washington was at Valley Forge, he kneeled in prayer. The task and responsibility were too much to bear for one person alone. He had to make a decision which was unbearable by himself. He searched for answers coming from heaven.

This is why we are moved in our heart and mind, and in awe when we see this historical portrait of our famous and beloved president submitting to our Heavenly Parent. It stirs our original mind that we should always include God.

God is a dramatic God. He can change the course of history in an instant, at the last minute. On all our coins it is written “In God we trust.” We receive answers if we knock and ask.
 
We affirm there is a God. We pray, we greet God every morning. We pray again, and then some more. Then we start resembling God. We keep our Heavenly Parent in our life; we never let go.
 
When we marry, we also make a vow. We pledge fidelity and to be together for better and for worse. We keep our vows. They are sacred. We do not vacillate in between. We keep our pledge. The family is the cornerstone of society, so it starts from there.
 
At our wedding Dietrich and I made a vow that we would stay together even beyond this world, because true love can transcend also the spirit world, where we enter the world of the heart, the realm of liberation. We wanted to be the guardians of true love.
 
May all your affirmations and proclamations this year brings good fortune and blessings to you, your family: husband, wife, sons and daughters. Because truly the family is the starting point of experiencing true love.
 
Elisabeth Seidel

Signs of the Times Bring Glad Tidings

Before the last neighbors’ house even took away the spooky Halloween decorations from their yard, people in my neighborhood started having Christmassy front yards. The day before Thanksgiving suddenly almost all the houses had been lit up with cheer and joy.
 
When the Christmas tree arrived in Rockefeller Center in New York City, the New Yorkers were shocked to discover in its branches, more surprised than themselves, a most adorable cute huggable owl, with her eyes wide open in amazement. This little owl could not comprehend how in the world she could make the trip from somewhere in the deep forest and arrive at Rockefeller Plaza, where she never went before. She was starving and seemed stunned to encounter the busy, anxious inhabitants of the Big Apple.
 
This was a sign. God the almighty sent a message to New Yorkers with the best ornament the Christmas Tree ever had. You see, the owl represents a beneficial, protective, wise bird. It protects humans at night, and brings good fortune, announcing change and new beginnings with higher understanding.
 
In the frosty December cold winter, this owl brought cheer, joy, and comfort to all of us.
In the meantime, the little owl, given the name “Rocky,” was fed, nurtured, and brought back to the forest.
Photograph: Ravensbeard Wildlife Center.

In my own backyard in the Mid-Hudson Valley, we see all kinds of animals. My neighbor Leanne is giving names to the visiting deer. One is Stella. There was also Haribou, the master with his big horns. In late October, drinking coffee with friends on my porch, suddenly a baby deer was chasing his mom, and right in front of our eyes, started nursing.

There is Blackie, the wild cat, who lives in the bushes and refuses to inhabit the cat house with a special blanket which generates heat. He likes it better in the wild over there in the bushes. But every day he comes to Leanne for food.
 
Last winter I also gave names to two huge visiting birds who came often, always as a pair. Halifax and Margot always chose the same tree when they visited me.
 
God made the creation at the beginning of time. He asked Adam, the first human being, to name each animal. We were supposed to be lord of creation and rule the world with love. But Adam and Eve fell. That is why God had to send Jesus the Messiah our savior. Jesus spoke about the marriage supper of the lamb which will happen at his return.
May we recognize the signs of the time.
 
Merry Christmas and cheers and blessings to you and your loved ones.
 
Elisabeth Seidel

Let’s Not Break the Laws of Heaven

Violation of heavenly law is called sin. Sin originated with the Fall of our first human ancestors. Disobedience to God’s commandments brought misery and corruption and a swamp of immorality. Jesus fought evil by fasting 40 days and liberated people suffering under the influence of evil spirits. “Sin no more,” he said.

At a recent virtual Sunday service we had a special guest speaker, Dan Burton, an American congressman of 30 years. He said the reason he likes our movement for peace is because it is based on moral values. Without moral values we cannot achieve world peace.

I totally agree with this comment. It was totally refreshing.

I believe also this is why for the seven years prior to our marriage, the Holy Marriage Blessing, Dietrich and I lived a life of abstinence, and traveled the roads of beautiful America and Europe as missionaries inviting people to hear a message of hope and world peace. In these travels we found God our Heavenly Parent. We tried to live a life of prayer and sacrifice for others, loving people. Rejection made us develop a heart of love and forgiveness, made us stronger in our faith, made us the kind of person who can love our enemy. Sleeping on hard floors with simple food, fasting often, we were so hopeful to change the world quickly. It takes so much longer than we hoped to change the world, but it was a chance for us to develop a better character, a better personality.

On this foundation, after our most beautiful, romantic wedding, we could love each other with divine love, working out our differences and including God in whatever we were doing. I truly felt God’s love the most when I was with my beloved. The bickering and fights were forgiven as soon as we made peace with each other. Dietrich always said the best part of our fights was making peace.

Of course, we still hope for world peace; it is our purpose in life. Today God is actively working with humanity, even if we do not see His guiding hand yet. We need to go back to moral values to achieve peace.

The most important thing for our Heavenly Parent is that we reconnect with Him, through connecting with the church of our choosing; that we live a life of integrity, practicing the seven virtues, living a life of fidelity in our marriage, and avoiding temptations.

Today is a lucky day. Without being a missionary, we can do all of the above.

Join me in building God’s Kingdom on earth as it is in Heaven.

Your friend forever,
Elisabeth Seidel

The Dissolution of all Conflicts and Resentments

One of my husband’s colleagues at the end of his life, when he knew his days were numbered, decided to visit and reconcile with everyone he held a grudge against or had difficult feelings or resentment towards. Those people he did not want to speak to because anger and upset feelings would arise: Was he maltreated? Was he jealous? Did he failed to seek harmony and peace and love, to go the extra mile and go over the hurt coming from the others?
 
What he knew was that he was not going to take his house or savings or car with him, and he would be separated for some time from his spouse and family and friends.
 
He knew like a certainty deep down in his guts that he needed repentance, and most of all, to forgive and reconcile. This is why he went and visited many people. He did not want to break Heavenly laws. He wanted to be clear and free before God.
 
This action brought calm to his restless heart and a sense of wellbeing; no need to take heavy, ugly, spiritual baggage with him.
 
Myself, I fought my spiritual battles with numerous family members to achieve peace through service. I try to love my in-laws as much as my husband loves them or more. I kept reminding him to visit, to call, to free his schedule for them. One time I felt rejected by everyone, but Dietrich’s sister, Gisela, and I became best friends through working our way through differences to reconciliation. My own brother deeply hurt me. I repented and cried to God about this point.
 
Family conflict started at the beginning of history and multiplies to this day. The one who includes God, our Heavenly Parent, will have a better chance to resolve conflicts. We will have the power to forgive all: Koreans and Japanese, French and Germans, blacks and whites, and others.
 
God will give us direction, grace and power and forgiveness, as long as we are seeking Him. In God we trust.
 
May God bless you and your family.
Your friend Elisabeth

The Stories that Made His Romantic Green Eyes Teary: A Viennese love story

I never saw my husband cry.

There were two stories which made his eyes damp or wet. Today I will tell one of those stories.

There is a legend of the Spinnerin am Kreuz (“Spinner at the Cross”), the story of the spinning wife. Her husband, a merchant, had left for the Holy Land Crusade circa 1375.

Every time we were leaving the Austrian capital to go home by the Vienna woods, we would pass by a hill which has a statue of the Spinnerin am Kreuz, south of the city called Favoriten.

Spinnerin am Kreuz, Wiener Neustadt
Image from Wikimedia Commons

Every time Dietrich would tell me this story it made his eyes damp. It is said that the wife came to this hill every day waiting for her husband to return from the war. From there she could see far in the distance.

While she was working on spinning the wool, with diligence, she waited with hope, anticipating the return of her love. Faithfully she went there every day, but no husband came back.

People started to tell her, forget it, he will never come back, why don’t you marry again?
But instead she persevered for months or years, never giving up hope, and anticipating the return of her love.

One day as usual as she was working on her wool, and looking far in the distance, when a man in rags appeared who was begging for food. She hurried to take care of him, and suddenly realized it was him. Her husband had returned. What a joy and beauty there is in such faithfulness, after suffering and persevering to conquer her dreams.

Faithfulness made my husband eyes damp. Faithfulness is a heavenly emotion. There is value in being faithful.

To be faithful requires a strong conviction, a commitment. More than a feeling, love is a decision, Faithfulness is more than a feeling; it is a heavenly decision. Dietrich emphasized this over and over again in all his classes on marriage and family.

The first ancestors of humankind, Adam and Eve, did not keep the Commandment. They were not faithful to God and to each other. That is why there were chased out of the garden of Eden. This has been the root of unhappiness.

Today one more time God is giving us a blessing. We are entering the age of heavenly emotions. The love between husband and wife cannot be given to another. If it is, it will be destroyed.

Love between husband and wife is eternal. We pledge faithfulness, and include God in our relationship. This will bring peace in the family and ultimately peace in the world.

May God bless you and your family.
Your friend Elisabeth